How can a girl find a life partner and get married

Dear friend, in this article I want to discuss a topic that is relevant for many young girls, how can a girl find a life partner and get married

This topic has already been partially touched upon in another article: Invisible beauty.

The Bible contains an important statement about one of the basic human needs:

The Lord God said:

“It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him”

Bible, book of Genesis, chapter 2, verse 18.

In this article, I want to help girls understand life principles that, if followed, help a girl become attractive to men as a potential wife, find a husband, and subsequently begin to build a happy family with him.

Life is full of contrasts. I had to watch lonely beautiful girls who for a long time and unsuccessfully tried to find a husband. I also had to watch outwardly unremarkable women with a child or even with three children who very quickly found husbands. At first glance, it may seem that in both cases everything depends on random causes. But I dare to say that this is not the case.

I have analyzed cases of successful and unsuccessful marriage seeking and have identified a few basic principles that govern this area. I will list them in ascending order of importance.

• Appearance. A neat and well-groomed girl is more likely to attract the attention of men. We are talking about neatness and grooming, and not about expensive makeup and clothes.

• As paradoxical as it may sound, a girl should not be overly eager to get married. This attitude scares men away.

• A girl should have an awareness of the need and desire for life changes, expressed in a willingness to act in order to achieve changes in life.

There is a famous saying:

“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

I knew a girl who didn’t have much of a chance of getting married successfully. But she believed in Almighty God and was taught in the church:

“But whoever looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues in it—not forgetting what they have heard, but doing it—they will be blessed in what they do”

Bible, the Epistle of James, chapter 1, verse 25.

She wanted to find a life partner, so she decided to create a platform for a miracle from God. She made the decision to take drastic steps to change her life.

She worked and had a small additional income. She decided in sight of God to donate her entire salary to charity every month, leaving only additional income for herself. At that time, no one knew about this decision of hers, except for her and God.

A few months later a miracle came from God and He gave her a husband. And this was not a simple man, but one of the ministers of the church, who later became a famous pastor.

• A girl should form the skill to be proactive, independent, open to innovation, not be afraid to try new things and make mistakes.

This behavior suggests that the girl has a vitality that will help her be a good helper. Such skills make a girl somewhat self-sufficient, since she herself has everything necessary to be happy. The paradox is that it is in this state that girls are most in demand among men for the role of life partners.

A striking example of the benefits of such an active lifestyle is the story of another girl who did not at all seek to get married, but devoted all her free time to orphan teenagers, protecting them and helping them get settled in life.

It is not even worth mentioning that she found a husband without any problems and got married.

Who knows in what new sphere her future husband awaits the girl! In the DreamWorks series of animated films about Shrek and Fiona, both main characters did not expect to meet each other where they met and how they met!

• Every man is created to be a man of purpose who cannot live aimlessly. Therefore, subconsciously, every man is looking for an assistant who will facilitate the achievement of his life goals.

And here it is not the external beauty of the woman that comes to the fore, but whether the girl is able to provide support to the man in his difficult life situations and battles, whether the girl will create comfort in living together with a man or she will become another heavy burden for him.

In order for a girl to be attractive as a future wife, she must be able to solve entire classes of auxiliary tasks of family life on her own, the solution of which will help a man achieve the main goal of his life.

This means that the girl needs to develop the skills of a good manager, which she will be able to apply in every area of ​​life.

And the first thing a girl must learn to manage is her inner world. A girl needs to learn how to cope with a bad mood on her own, not to lose joy in any situation, but rather to bring hope and help to others. It is in this that girls who believe in God can be especially strong, since they have access to God’s unlimited source. Therefore, it is best for a girl who wants to get married to start by establishing a covenant relationship with God the Creator. How this can be done and how it happened in my life is written here.

It is these girls that men are subconsciously looking for for the role of their life partner.

World literature gives many examples of how the implementation of the principles listed above leads to the fact that the girls who fulfill them become faithful wives who, together with their husbands, have created happy families that bring great benefits to other people. The article Invisible Beauty mentions two girls who are a vivid illustration of the principles outlined in this article: Princess Mary from Lev Tolstoy’s novel “War and Peace” and Agnes from Charles Dickens’ novel “David Copperfield”.

In conclusion, I would like to quote the Bible hymn to The Wife of Noble Character, which celebrates the qualities that men appreciate in girls:

“A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
She gets up while it is still night;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her female servants.
She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
“Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
Honor her for all that her hands have done,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate!”

Bible, Proverbs, chapter 31, verses 10-31.

Dear friends, I hope that knowing and following the principles outlined in this article will help girls not only find husbands, but also build families that will become a place of family happiness!